Hi there
Sounds to me that you are doing everything fine. I trained with weights and a PT with expanders but just listened to my body as to what feels right. I had no excuses for legs, butt or core but either lightened the upper body load or modified the exercises. I am now one month post revision surgery and am doing pushups on my knees - until I feel totally strong and the scar tissue is fully healed. Now that these implants are final I don't want to take any chances.
Your friends are well-meaning (I'm sure) but you know what feels ok for you. Keep up the good work. Alex xx
