@Pinkisthenewblack I think the great thing is, so many wonderful ladies to share and talk with, I've found it really helps with people who just 'get it' and just so supportive. It's been a really safe and peaceful place for me to come to. Loved ones and friends are ok but its not quite the same, I don't really talk to anyone else about it, so the Forum is great! You'll definitely work out your path as you hit each step at a time. There's no right or wrong just trust yourself and above all else, put you first...above everyone and everything. It really is your time to nurture and look after you. I found I had to show people how to do this for the first time in my life. :) x M