Practical issues with mastectomy
I had a mastectomy, right side. Whilst I have been furnished with a lot of information and support about hair loss and makeup etc (thank you Look Good, Feel Better), I feel that not enough guidance and support is provided about the actual loss of the breast and associated lymph node surgery. I had no idea how difficult it would be adapting to having only one breast, and the pain and swelling in my armpit area and arm. I sometimes wish they'd taken both breasts off! The practical issues of not being able to wear a bra, discomfort and numbness in my arm, and not being able to wear the clothes I have.
I've accepted losing my breast, but it has been very hard adapting to the physical and practical loss. Sometimes I feel like such a freak, constantly trying to make my breast area look 'normal' with the use of the soft prosthesis supplied. I was referred to, and obtained a silicone prosthesis, but I still can't wear it as I've put on weight and the bras supplied are already too tight. I still can't cope with the weight of it yet due to sensitivity. Because of swelling and weight gain due to chemo, I've had to go out and buy bigger size button up shirts and skirts. I live in Brisbane and it's been difficult in the heat, not being able to wear cool tops. It's even difficult being around non family members/visitors and being able to just be 'myself'. I know they are sympathetic but it's still awkward having a missing breast. Getting my face looking something like normal is easy, but getting dressed to go to the shops or to work usually ends up in tears and frustration.
I know there's probably nothing practical anyone can do, but I feel it's an area of support that's completely overlooked.
