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LP020406
20 days agoMember
Post-treatment Tired and can't afford to be
Hi there, I am a 60 year old who has had a pretty-easy, early-invasive BC journey: Small, ER+, PR+, HER-; Lumpectomy with clear margins; 2 lymph nodes taken but uninvolved; Axillar seroma drained; 1...
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Suzywong
17 days agoMember
HiAfraser
thanks for this share it’s me to a tea but i am feeling if i do stop and relax then i am giving in to the cancer
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Afraser
17 days agoMember
No need to stop! I've never believed that stress causes cancer (although certainly not good for you in general terms) but stopping what you enjoy doesn't do you much good either. Small steps. I could do the 20 minutes in the garden straight away. I had staff to delegate to and most of them (not all!) were pleased to have more control. Those who weren't learned fairly quickly that I was abandoning the old habit, when things didn't go so well, of saying "Oh, give it to me, I'll do it!'. I was happy to advise but it would have to be done again. Efficiency increased. I was over a year after diagnosis, no longer in active treatment, when I was offered a new job - 'Thank you, but I couldn't possibly....' had already left my mouth when I realised that I could. Three conditions - my new boss needed to know my age, my cancer history and that I wanted a four day week. The answers were 'Don't care', 'Don't care' and 'Yes'. Four day weeks are common now, and with a bit of organising and retaining my preference for working till about 7pm on workdays (blissful peace to get on with stuff in an empty office between five and seven!), just as much got done. But a three day weekend was a revelation. The 'battler' terminology lends itself to seeing cancer as an endless struggle against the enemy - and some if it is a struggle. But holding one's ground, and still caring about your body and what it can still do, is important too. Good luck.
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