A thousand thank yous for that comprehensive guide @onemargie. I am screenshotting it so it's easy to find & refer to again. You are a marvel and this forum is blessed to have you.
I feel a bit shocked by the betrayal of my brain but I hear you, and will strive to accept the memory issues, and accept that it will pass. I've always written a shopping list, and also jot reminders on it. I'll step that up.
I'm under a cotton doona, but Melbourne's getting cold now! I think this year we'll layer the doona rather than swap to the feather one. I think I'll have to step through all the hot flush aids and see what works. I thought I might start with a cooling pillow and see how I go with that. I will work with my GP on all this.
I'd forgotten about your nail tip. I'll have to wait until after the op (strict instructions to have no polish) but will definitely give it a go if they're still bothering me after that.
I think I've got the hang of the fatigue, I just have to concentrate on pacing myself. I need to rest after each 'activity'. A sit down on the couch or some quiet time in my room is usually enough. I'm pretty good about fresh air and a walk but thank you for the reminder. One day at a time continues to be an issue for me. I love a plan and it's difficult to sit in this unknowable timeframe. However I know I am being schooled hard by cancer in this, so I'll try and try again to be more accepting of my failings, to accept that it's going to take a long time, to not push too hard and be gentle with myself.
Thanks Margie, can't say how grateful I am but I can tell you I got a bit teary reading your response! Kate xox