Only one day to go...

Hi Trina I hope you are hanging in there. I told my 3 & 6 yr old boys & 8 yr old daughter that I had a bad lump in my breast & the docs needed to cut it out. Then after the lumpectomy when I got the bc result & unclear margins i told them they didn't get it all & docs may even have to cut my whole boob off to get it all...I said it casually so as not to make a big deal of it & to plant the seed until I confirmed it once I knew. That went down ok...my 3 yr old thought it was funny they would 'cut, cut' my boob off. I said I'd finished with my boobs anyway so wouldn't matter, & no one would be able to tell as I'd wear a pretend one in my bra (8 yr old daughter was worried what I'd look like). A few wks later when there was reading material coming into the house with cancer written on it, I told 6& 8 yr olds it was breast cancer but they got it all & was fixed. I was lucky enough to just need the mastectomy & hormone blocking treatment (tomoxifen) but no chemo or rad cause my lymph nodes weren't involved. I hope this is of some help, remember though I am no expert, but just went with what felt right (I also discussed it with the kids teachers too). Take care & thinking of you. Love Sam xo

Hi Trina,

Was thinking of you all morning.  As your husband said, one day at a time, and one step at a time to get through this.  Have you spoken to your 7 year old's teachers?  They might suggest a way to tell on a need-to-know basis so it isn't too confusing or scarey.  The teachers can make sure things go smoothly at school, and any little bit helps.

Scream your head off if it helps - the shower is good for this.  Please message me any time!

Love, Michelle x

 

It's official....I have BC.... I already knew this because they told me Thurs at the radiologist..but now it's official! Yippee! Sarcasm aside it was good to talk to the doctor and voice some concerns she couldn't tell me much but did give it a name which I promptly forgot! I'll get more details from the specialist tomorrow... And a treatment plan that many people have mentioned. Question.... What do I tell my 7year old? I'm finding myself counting to 10 a lot as I'm a little short tempered. Although I'm making an effort to be as normal as possible. What I really want to do is scream!!

Hi Trina, thinking of you today and tomorrow. The waiting is nearly over, and that is the worst bit. At least after today and tomorrow, you will have a plan, and with a plan, you will have some control back in your life. Love Chris xx

just to let you know my thoughts will be with you tomorrow and wednesday as you see your doctor and surgeon. Let us know how you get on.

I wish i had the magic wand that i could wave to make you sleep well and feel better.

Mel