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Hello Jeanine It's great that you replied to me especially about the sentinel node biopsy. I really don't care about what I will look like after the mastectomy as I really wanted the surgeon to take both breasts off at the same time but he said he should only do one as doing both may delay treatment for the bc in the one breast that has it. I have read about your type of cancer and what kind of treatment did you have after mastectomy. Are you ok now? I thought that DCIS was still contained in the breast. I have learnt so much about breast cancer and the different types of treatment. Did you have "risk factors". I thought that I didn't, so when I had a small twinge in my left side on waking up on some mornings I thought I had just slept on my side too heavily. I actually found the cancer when I was checking a mole under the breast and the cancer was there where I had felt the twinge. How did you find yours? One thing that really makes me feel that it's so unfair is that is that my husband has never been ill...I am so jealous. I have a mother who has always emotionally abused me so I will not tell her of my bc. But I have three lovely grown up children who are very good to me. My husband and mother and his family always were abusive to me especially when I was ill. I have had a thyroidectomy and am on oroxine, have had my gall bladder taken out and I have a metal plate in my wrist. I thought that was enough for me but now there is much worse it seems. I feel that I have spent too much time looking after my husbands, his and my family's emotional and physical needs that there was no room for me and now finally my body has had enough. But my three children are really the best. My youngest son is coming to stay for my operation and says that "he will make sure that we get through this" as he says he wouldn't be able to live without his mum, so I will try' every way I can to get through. I also now think that stress is a "risk factor" in bc as I have been stressed by my mother and my husband and his family all my life as I now can see through all of their motives which I think that they just wanted to play silly games with me and it became a way of life. My husband actually burst into tears at my diagnosis and is now very supportive as I think he is terrified also. Giedre xxxxs and hugs to you