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Beekay
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11 years ago

Life after bilateral mastectomy

It's just over 4 months since my operation and I feel pretty good. I didn't have reconstruction, and am so glad that I made that decision. Still feeling tight across my chest and the numbness will probably me re completely go away. It truly has been a horrid year for me, starting with my diagnosis in March, then lumpectomy, then the news that a further operation was needed to get a wider margin! I didn't relish the idea of further surgery, then 7 weeks' radiation so made the decision to have mastectomy but, because I had huge boobs, the surgeon wouldn't remove one, as I would be too lopsided so both went. Three weeks after my operation one of my beloved dogs died, a beautiful Border Collie. Renal failure. Too sudden to cope with. In September my beloved cat died, a week after her 20th birthday. Just woke up that morning, unable to move and died in my arms in less than an hour. I am heartbroken at my losses and feel at times overwhelmed by grief. I had started on Tamoxifen ... after a couple of months of it and its side effects I decided to go without and take my chances as I had no lymph node involvement and my chances of recurrence were low, according to my surgeon. 2014 has been almost unbearable at times. I am a strong and positive woman, but everything that has happened has almost brought me to my knees at times.

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  • Thanks Butterfly00 ... you take care too. I had an endometrial ablation (got rid of it due to fibroids) about 15 years ago and am sorry to hear that ghe Tamoxifen caused you such problems. I hope all is good for you now. 2015 ... a year of happiness and good health for us all.
  • Thanks Butterfly00 ... you take care too. I had an endometrial ablation (got rid of it due to fibroids) about 15 years ago and am sorry to hear that ghe Tamoxifen caused you such problems. I hope all is good for you now. 2015 ... a year of happiness and good health for us all.
  • Friends give and take, I had a friend of 25 years and she cut me off, it hurts I grieved the loss of the friendship and everytime I seen her I cried, but you know what I relised that if she cant get over things its her problom not mine. I'm sure you have alot of other friends who will step up for you as I have found. Take care you other things to be concerned about.

  • Friends give and take, I had a friend of 25 years and she cut me off, it hurts I grieved the loss of the friendship and everytime I seen her I cried, but you know what I relised that if she cant get over things its her problom not mine. I'm sure you have alot of other friends who will step up for you as I have found. Take care you other things to be concerned about.

  • It's hard enough coping with your treatment - the loss of your much loved pets and your ex-friend in a childish huff are really piling it on.  Just wanted to send you a big hug.  We have nearly all had a friend or relative behave strangely - there is even a long post about it, where everyone told their story.  Try to stay with positive people who build you up and press the delete button on the others. (I was initially tight too across the chest, but exercise has relieved it almost 100%.)  All the best, take care xxx Michelle

  • Thanks Rowdy. All the best to you too. It's a horrid disease ... another sad thing is that my best friend of 34 years has misunderstood something I said and has had nothing to do with me since August. No-one, her husband, other friends, can make her see that she's wrong. I have had to get over that loss as well. Too hurtful. All the best. Keep on keeping on!
  • I know how you feel I could cancel out this year if I could. It is hard when you go back and things get worse this is all part of this crappy disease. We all suffer differently, I myself have always thought I'm a positive person but this is really testing me. Here is to the new year to come 2015 has to be better,one day at a time I keep telling myself.