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CJ's avatar
CJ
Member
12 years ago

Just diagnosed

Hello all,

 

I'm a female in my late thirties (well only just) with three young kids ages 5 and under.

I had a mammogram, ultrasound, and biopsy on Monday morning. I saw a surgeon that afternoon (before results were in). I called back to find out the results on the biopsy on Tuesday and heard it is breastcancer. That was on Christmas eve.

The surgeon I saw is on holiday for the next 10 days, and so is my gp.

I saw another GP on Friday and received a copy of the pathology report which says: "Invasive ductal carcinoma, ER/PR positive, HER2 Positive".

I'm seeing the surgeon again on 6.1.2014 (his first day back from the holidays).

I had so many questions.

How long do you have to wait for an operation usually?

I'm so worried about the cancer staying in there for another number of days. Should I try to get into another specialist to get it out? (Although there are only 4 working days between now and my app with the surgeon.)

I've been losing some weight (8 kg over the last 3 months). Is that a bad sign?

Any advice about how to appoach this would be appreciated.

Thanks, CJ

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 Replies

  • CJ's avatar
    CJ
    Member
    12 years ago

    Your information, suggestions, kind words and the sharing of your journey have been very comforting, just when I needed it. Thank you so much ladies, it is very much appreciated.

  • jenpen's avatar
    jenpen
    Member
    12 years ago

    We all know the fear & waiting...but with young kids they will be your welcome distraction!

    I have 2 children & similar diagnosis.....had my 1st mammo mid July - core biopsy etc. before an overseas trip Jul/Aug -  13 Sept had biopsy, pathology results 27 Sept confirmed Invas dcis ER/PR pos (my Mum passed away 2 days after my diagnosis) had mastectomy 11 Oct........so, don't worry too much about rushing to get it done......go with the flow & it is amazing how quickly the process will go anyway! 

    Like Robyn said (I am her personal stalker!) bc (note: no capital letters for this!) is a treatable disease nowadays even though when you first hear those words you automatically think the worst ( I straight away thought I wouldn't be here to see my kids get to high school & beyond!)

    This site really is amazing in keeping us sane & understood by those who are in similar circumstances.......none of us wants to be here but this is what we've been dealt...and we will get through!

    Big hug to you....& give your littlies an extra squeeze! X

  • adean's avatar
    adean
    Member
    12 years ago
    Hi, waiting is the hardest thing, a few days will not have made any difference, who knows how long you have had it, but Like all of us you just want everything done fast, and then one day you will look back and won't believe where the time went, life becomes a schedule of appointments have you got the my journey kit from bcna it's invaluable, so is the pamphlet on the website I wish I could fix it, great for loved ones. This is the scariest thing ,fear of the unknown, but you do get there, for me it's 17 months later and all pretty good. I lost 8 kg just worrying, the thought of food and that nagging in the gut can be overwhelming. Like the others say one day at a time, I'm sure you will feel better once you see the surgeon. Regards adean
  • Hazel_M's avatar
    Hazel_M
    Member
    12 years ago

    I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma on 25th Sept, lumpectomy on the 15th October. The doctor that gave me the diagnosis said not to go home and worry that it was spreading fast, a few weeks doesn't make a difference. You will find yourself doing a lot of waiting on this journey, waiting for surgery, results, treatment. The best advice given to me was to take  'one day at a time', it's difficult to do but it's the best thing. I wish you well and always feel welcome to come to this site, the ladies are always helpful, take care, 

    Hazel xx

  • Deanne's avatar
    Deanne
    Member
    12 years ago
    I am so sorry that you have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. I was diagnosed with an invasive ductal carcinoma in May this year and am now finished treatment and am doing and feeling very well. Mine was ER and PR positive HER2 negative. I am now on tamoxifen which is very effective at preventing recurrences of hormone positive cancers. Try not to worry too much about the little wait for surgery. Most people have a couple of weeks between diagnosis and the next step. We all just want it gone once you know about it, but really a few days will not make a difference. The good thing is it has been found and you can now have treatment, which is very effective these days. Have you ordered your My Journey Kit from BCNA? You can do this by clicking on the tab at the bottom of this page. It is full of useful info which will help you understand the treatment that your doctors will recommend for you. Try to keep busy and prepare for treatment in practical ways. Once you know more about what surgery and treatment you will be having you can find lots of great practical advice on here. The waiting is the worst. You will feel so much better once some action is underway. Sending you lots of good wishes and hoping things move quickly once you see the surgeon. Take care. Deanne xxxxoooo
  • tannie53's avatar
    tannie53
    Member
    12 years ago

    I am newly diagnosed as well and I had to wait 1 month for the surgery (18 December) and now I am waiting for the drs to come back on the 6th to find out what happens next!  The waiting is terrible but my dr said that days/weeks don't make much of a difference but I was certainly much happier when I knew it was gone! Just keep busy which I am sure you are with your little kids.

    Take Care

    Tanya