I want this thing out of me now!

Hi Jo, I figure you are almost off to see your surgeon. Best wishes for that. Take care.

Jo don't ever feel that you shouldn't whinge you have been given a bum deal just like the rest of us and it's the support and having a good cry and whinge that alot of the time gets us through.

doesnt matter if you are at the start or the end it's all a bum hand, we all know where you are at and all feel for you, we are closer sisters than sisters because we feel with you having been there, hang in and keep us posted 

Jo don't ever feel that you shouldn't whinge you have been given a bum deal just like the rest of us and it's the support and having a good cry and whinge that alot of the time gets us through.

doesnt matter if you are at the start or the end it's all a bum hand, we all know where you are at and all feel for you, we are closer sisters than sisters because we feel with you having been there, hang in and keep us posted 

Thanks for the good advice Fran. I was doing  a lot better in the past 2 weeks  with accepting this dreaded cancer. I think that had a lot to do with all the support i have received on this site from some truly beautiful ladies. 

With only 6 days to go until i see the surgeon i am beginning to get a bit on edge again.   I know everyone will be hear  to help me cope, and i am ever so thankful  to everyone. Maybe i will get of lightly because i  have caught it early, I hope so.

'Annie 2 has been a tower of strength to me and so many on this site. Such a brave and strong woman who has given such valuable advice to me.         You were so lucky Fran that you pushed and demanded action when you did,  You too have been through so much, it really seems so unfair of me to winge before i have had anything done. i wish you all the best luck in the world.  You have endured so much but have remained strong. I envy you.

Congrats on your beautiful new grand daughters. There is lots of pleasure coming up with those two little darlings. Such a special time.

Cheers Jo xx

PS: i believe in " breast cancer makes us all sisters" 

Hi Jo I'm sorry that I did not reply sooner but I had my daughters 15th birthday to organise was a small family affair as I get tired easily now sisnce the operations. Yes I am having chemo as per surgent's opinion,haven't seen the oncologist yet, because of my age and because its a grade 3 . My tumor was 22mm when was first detected on the 14/6/11 during the ultrasound and it grew up to 29 mm when was taken out during surgery 3 weeks later. I feel anxiuos about my returning to work as I get quite tired now since the second operation, but I'll see how I feel if I cant cope than I take leave whitout pay. I am thinking off you and I'll keep you in my prayers so you surgery will go smooth and that you'll get back on your feet in not time. Hope you have people around you to support you during this time. Regards Moni 

Hi Jo

I am so happy to hear that you are feeling positive at the moment - there is no reason for you not to be, you know.  I think my mind was more blank than positive - are you a normally optimistic person?  I am very accepting of most things, having been through some major life changing surgeries before - not two knees though!

I am not working either right now and will have to wait until all this is over before I can look for another job.  That's my biggest worry because of being on my own but again, I have had to learn to trust people and borrow and sell what I can. 

My cancer was Grade 3 breast - and I caught it very early.  I am very, very lucky because it had already started to travel and also because originally they thought I had it in both breasts but turned out to be in only one.  Took me a long time to see that as a positive but got there eventually!  The biopsies were traumatic - funny positions, several in one breast by a man I didn't like at all - things like that.  You get swept along and it takes a while to find your voice which is one reason that this forum is so vital for us all - so many of us have similar experiences.

So procedures, tests, surgery, chemo, radio, hormone treatment - nothing unusual about my path!  I didn't have the waiting that you have - unfortunately there is no-one who can tell you what your path will be until you start seeing your doctors. If there is anything you need to know at any time, ask - they are there to treat you.  If you have any doubts, express them because they can't be dealt with otherwise. You will probably be given numbers for breast care nurses or similar  who work at the hospital or with an organisation for your area - these women are absolute angels and are reassuring and comforting and funny and informative - they are there for you, the patient. 

We are going to do well, Jo.  I don't know why we are going through this except to say that 1 in 8 Australian women will.  So I think it's best to get it out of the way now, don't you, then we can get on with our lives!! 

Not long now, Jo.  Stay as strong as you can and when you feel upset, go with it. Try not to hold it in for the sake of others - this is about you.

s  :)

Hi Jo

I am so happy to hear that you are feeling positive at the moment - there is no reason for you not to be, you know.  I think my mind was more blank than positive - are you a normally optimistic person?  I am very accepting of most things, having been through some major life changing surgeries before - not two knees though!

I am not working either right now and will have to wait until all this is over before I can look for another job.  That's my biggest worry because of being on my own but again, I have had to learn to trust people and borrow and sell what I can. 

My cancer was Grade 3 breast - and I caught it very early.  I am very, very lucky because it had already started to travel and also because originally they thought I had it in both breasts but turned out to be in only one.  Took me a long time to see that as a positive but got there eventually!  The biopsies were traumatic - funny positions, several in one breast by a man I didn't like at all - things like that.  You get swept along and it takes a while to find your voice which is one reason that this forum is so vital for us all - so many of us have similar experiences.

So procedures, tests, surgery, chemo, radio, hormone treatment - nothing unusual about my path!  I didn't have the waiting that you have - unfortunately there is no-one who can tell you what your path will be until you start seeing your doctors. If there is anything you need to know at any time, ask - they are there to treat you.  If you have any doubts, express them because they can't be dealt with otherwise. You will probably be given numbers for breast care nurses or similar  who work at the hospital or with an organisation for your area - these women are absolute angels and are reassuring and comforting and funny and informative - they are there for you, the patient. 

We are going to do well, Jo.  I don't know why we are going through this except to say that 1 in 8 Australian women will.  So I think it's best to get it out of the way now, don't you, then we can get on with our lives!! 

Not long now, Jo.  Stay as strong as you can and when you feel upset, go with it. Try not to hold it in for the sake of others - this is about you.

s  :)

Hi Susie,

great to hear you are still laughing. Hey if you don't have fun and laugh when you can life becomes very hard and morbid. I am doing ok at the moment. I am still hanging out though to see the surgeon and get some answers and details of what is going to be done. ( only 10 more days to go).  I am for some reason feeling really positive and feel that it's not going to be as bad as what they said. I think i maybe  have gone into denial again i don't know. 

Anyway how are you doing with your treatment. Are you having those dreaded hot flushes yet?   When where you  diagnosed and what type of cancer do you have and what was the treatment plan you where put on ? I am trying to get an idea as to what i am in for.

I hope all is going well with you Susie, keep in touch ,  cheers Jo x

Hi Jo

Just wondering how you are and how you're getting on?

susie

ps. laughter has helped me through the whole process, much to the dismay of some of my very, very serious caregivers.  It's not to make light of the severity of the diagnosis - it just helps me keep it in perspective.

Thanks Monica for your kind thoughts. I noticed you gott in within a couple of weeks to have your operation.  i have got to wait until the 11th august to see the surgeon then i don't know how long it takes to be booked in to have it out. I cant stand the waiting it really plays with your mind and emotions.    It's good to see your surgeons finally got it all out, must have been a scary time for you.

You are going back to work on Monday  which is probably a good idea now that you are feeling so much better.  Keeping the mind busy is probably better than moping around. How long do you need  to wait for treatment to start ?

I had already given my job up due to a prior non related operation and now  need to find another but will now wait until everything is over with.

You had the same as me except i was grade 2 you were worse at grade 3.  Is this why you are having chemo then radiation treatment.? can i ask how big the lump was when they found it.?  as you can see i still have so many questions and no matter how many times i read about it , i still can not comprehend it properly. I  just want it over with so my life can get back to the way it was.

I hope everything goes well with your treatment plan and good luck with work on Monday.

Cheers Jo