I don't know how to process any of this anymore. I have been told my lump, originally thought to be 1.5cm was in fact 3.2cm triple negative grade 3. That means I have Stage 2 Breast Cancer. F*&k it!!! I don't know how to deal with this. I feel like there is no hope. I don't want the staging scans as I'm sure they will just tell me it's gone everywhere. I will be seeing an oncologist next week and start Chemotherapy. How the hell did this happen to me. Help ladies I need so much support right now. Mandy x

We are here. I know that it is hard right now but your doctors have probably told you that your cancer is still very treatable. There are many women with similar pathology that have clear scans. It is an awful process and the not knowing is just so hard. Your head gets too far out in front and you start thinking the worst. The scans will probably be clear and you will feel a huge sense of relief when this is confirmed. My tumor was also a lot bigger than the mammogram showed. I had 3 cm tumor and a 3 cm area of DCIS. The bad news for me was that it was in 5 lymph glands. This made my cancer stage 3a. It is a bugger that yours is triple negative but this is still not a death sentence. I know you have probably heard this before but just take it one step at a time. Do you have someone to take with you for the scans and oncologist appointment? This helps you get through and they can be a second pair of ears and even ask questions that you might be too emotional to think of. Chemo we can talk about too, just ask away. Sending lots of hugs your way. Have a good cry it is ok to feel scared but we are here if you want to talk. Deanne xxooooo

I know that you must be in shock and feeling very low right now but don't jump the gun my dear girl. You are doing all the right things, seeing your medical team, planning treatment. I had Stage 2 BC and I can tell you, it's not a death sentence. I am through chemo and surgery and right now I'm cancer free. My Oncologist told me that yes TNBC is aggressive and fast growing but it responds very well to treatment. As opposed to ER+ and/or HER2 + in which case you need to have targeted treatment as well as chemo which can be ongoing for up to 10 years. I had two lumps one was TNBC and one was ER+ and HER2 + both in the same breast. Quite rare apparently but look at me now. NO CANCER! There is always hope Mandy. Things look so black right now but the clouds will clear and you will see you way again. I wrote a poem that might be of help to you if you want to read it. The link is http://www.bcna.org.au/user/12607/blog/62506 Mandy you have begun a difficult journey, there's no denying that. But it is 'doable' and I'm sure that other lovely Pink Sisters will reassure you too that you are not alone. This network has been my savour when I first begun and you will find strength and determination to get through it all like I did. Sending you lots of hugs. Love Janey xxx

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Deanne
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12 years ago
We are here. I know that it is hard right now but your doctors have probably told you that your cancer is still very treatable. There are many women with similar pathology that have clear scans. It is an awful process and the not knowing is just so hard. Your head gets too far out in front and you start thinking the worst. The scans will probably be clear and you will feel a huge sense of relief when this is confirmed. My tumor was also a lot bigger than the mammogram showed. I had 3 cm tumor and a 3 cm area of DCIS. The bad news for me was that it was in 5 lymph glands. This made my cancer stage 3a. It is a bugger that yours is triple negative but this is still not a death sentence. I know you have probably heard this before but just take it one step at a time. Do you have someone to take with you for the scans and oncologist appointment? This helps you get through and they can be a second pair of ears and even ask questions that you might be too emotional to think of. Chemo we can talk about too, just ask away. Sending lots of hugs your way. Have a good cry it is ok to feel scared but we are here if you want to talk. Deanne xxooooo
Deanne
Member
12 years ago
We are here. I know that it is hard right now but your doctors have probably told you that your cancer is still very treatable. There are many women with similar pathology that have clear scans. It is an awful process and the not knowing is just so hard. Your head gets too far out in front and you start thinking the worst. The scans will probably be clear and you will feel a huge sense of relief when this is confirmed. My tumor was also a lot bigger than the mammogram showed. I had 3 cm tumor and a 3 cm area of DCIS. The bad news for me was that it was in 5 lymph glands. This made my cancer stage 3a. It is a bugger that yours is triple negative but this is still not a death sentence. I know you have probably heard this before but just take it one step at a time. Do you have someone to take with you for the scans and oncologist appointment? This helps you get through and they can be a second pair of ears and even ask questions that you might be too emotional to think of. Chemo we can talk about too, just ask away. Sending lots of hugs your way. Have a good cry it is ok to feel scared but we are here if you want to talk. Deanne xxooooo

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