Hi Karel,
So sorry about your news. It must be so incredibly scary and bewildering. I posted the other week about a lady I met when I was being discharged from hospital whose breast cancer had also spread to her bones including her spine. She had been given a poor prognosis. When I met her she had been surviving her secondary cancer for 7 years, was still working and living strong. As a thought, you could always commence the treatment that your oncologist has offered and see how you react to it, could be better than you think. I'm sure that what you ultimately decide will certainly be the right option for you. Sending you best wishes and hugs Xx Cath