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Tashie125
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12 years ago

Here I am...finally

Im 36 and have recently finished chemo(FEC-D) for a 12mm IBC and DCIS that was multi focal.  I had a WLI and lumpectomy with 2 nodes removed.  I am Grade 3, Node -, ER+ and HER2+.  I have only just gained enough courage to look at some online stuff as I have been petrified of reading the wrong materials.  I have four kids aged 1-3-6-8 and it has been tough some days to look at them and keep a straight face.  I am in a country town and  this week will be relocating to Perth for 7 weeks of radiation with my family in tow(thank god).  I have my head sorted treatment wise but the emotional side is something I am struggling with a little and obviously the thought of a recurrance plays on my mind.  When do the nerves settle?

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    Tashie125
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    12 years ago
    Hiya, thanks for the well wishes. Rads is going ok so far, I am in my fourth week and just starting to get that dusky coloured skin. I have come down with a cold so am feeling a little run down but am being looked after by the family. I saw your post about your scar scare, I hope it comes back clear, I just had my markup today to blitz the scar tissue. Keep us posted with your results. Sending some light and love your way also. Xx
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    jbw
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    12 years ago

    Hi, I am new here but not to BC.  Wish you all the very best and hope you have great support for your little gang.  I was diag. at 29 (now 37) and had surgery, radio, chemo & herceptin (HER2+) treatment.  I found, even then, that radio made me quite tired but was still able to work full time.  I now have two beautiful babes (2.5 & nearly 1) so I hope you get as much rest as you possibly can to keep up your energy for your little ones.  Best wishes.

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    jbw
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    12 years ago

    Hi, I am new here but not to BC.  Wish you all the very best and hope you have great support for your little gang.  I was diag. at 29 (now 37) and had surgery, radio, chemo & herceptin (HER2+) treatment.  I found, even then, that radio made me quite tired but was still able to work full time.  I now have two beautiful babes (2.5 & nearly 1) so I hope you get as much rest as you possibly can to keep up your energy for your little ones.  Best wishes.

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    Tashie125
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    12 years ago
    I know what you mean. I have had to take my kids out of school and re-enrol them in Perth so we can all be together. They are excited about it which makes it a bit easier but there's nothing like home. It's been a hectic six months and hopefully after the radiation things will get back to a bit of normal, or new normal as people say.
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    Tashie125
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    12 years ago

    Thanks Robyn. We are in Perth now and settled in. The radiation wasn't as bad and I expected I think it's just nerves that get the better of me. My kids are a great distraction when I start to get anxious, hopefully it will all settle down with time.

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    Dlhcba6
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    12 years ago
    I am in similar situation also, right mastectomy, just finished chemo, 4 kids 5,7,9,11 and about to start radiation which I have to move to Canberra for for 5 weeks starting next Thursday. Everything is just so bloody stressful. You are trying to maintain the status quo for your kids and husband and sometimes it's not that easy. I honestly just try to keep breathing and get through each day. I am really peeved that I am missing my youngest child starting school...which is something no one can quite understand why I am peeved. I am worried what will happen at home when I am not here and I worry like hell if this radiation is going to actually do anything other than wreck my silicone implant which was done when I had mastectomy. Which will then mean I have to go back no do it all over again. I truly wonder how much more women like you and I and everyone on this site can take? BC just keeps on giving! I wish you well and as many positive thoughts I can conjure. Hang in there. Lisa xx
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    Dlhcba6
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    12 years ago
    I am in similar situation also, right mastectomy, just finished chemo, 4 kids 5,7,9,11 and about to start radiation which I have to move to Canberra for for 5 weeks starting next Thursday. Everything is just so bloody stressful. You are trying to maintain the status quo for your kids and husband and sometimes it's not that easy. I honestly just try to keep breathing and get through each day. I am really peeved that I am missing my youngest child starting school...which is something no one can quite understand why I am peeved. I am worried what will happen at home when I am not here and I worry like hell if this radiation is going to actually do anything other than wreck my silicone implant which was done when I had mastectomy. Which will then mean I have to go back no do it all over again. I truly wonder how much more women like you and I and everyone on this site can take? BC just keeps on giving! I wish you well and as many positive thoughts I can conjure. Hang in there. Lisa xx
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    Robyn_W
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    12 years ago
    How great that your family can go to Perth with you.I am older than you,and I didn't have radio,just surgery and chemo,but I think the anxiety is pretty much the same for everyone.With such a young family,you must have been so busy,with not a lot of time to just spend with 'yourself'.I hope you have had good support.When the treatment is over,that is when I think the anxiety BEGINS to settle.I think this,because I find that now I am feeling well,I like to concentrate on staying that way.Exercise,good nutrition,regular checkups.In other words,looking out for myself.Even with a young family,I believe you can do this.By making these changes,you not only feel better in yourself,but you are doing everything in your power to prevent a recurrence,therefore feel more in control.Sending you big hugs.xoxo Robyn