Got told today chemo failed

What a shitfest for you!! Sounds like your surgeon is somewhat lacking in people skills..... When I questioned my oncologist at my very first appointment why I was having chemo first and then surgery followed by hormone therapy and so on, and not the surgery first, then the other, she explained it thus. It was for a twofold reason, an attempt to shrink the two tumours in my left breast, but....most importantly....to deal with any stray cells which might have gone walkabout already. She said to me that the cancer in my breast wouldn't kill me, it would be any cancer that went elsewhere from that primary in the breast which was the danger and that chemo first was my best option. Without trying to sound patronising to you with this hellish news, I hope that the chemo has at least flooded through your body and zapped any fuckers that might have been setting up shop elsewhere.