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KathSe
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9 years ago

Finished treatment and scared

finished chemo and rads 9 weeks ago for tnbc and scared! 10 mm lesion with no lymph involvement and fully excisedz. How do I get past the fear? My bones ache from chemo in hip and back and im
terrified about mets. I want to start living again but it's so hard!!!!!

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  • Hi Kath,
    Firstly you should know your feelings are normal. I too just finished my long haul in Jan and are going through the same feelings, I even distanced myself from my favourite site "here" thinking it would help. I have recently put as much time as I could into rebooting my business, but unfortunately it is a process we have to go through, so don't be too tough on yourself lovely lady, as hard as it is we have to realize we will not be back to our old selves for sometime.  
    It is important to talk about your feelings to people that understand.
    Cheers Jen xx
  • Yep I am 15 months past diagnosis and I am still tired and worn. Not really worried about mets, it if happens it happens. I won the last battle, I can win another.
  • Hi @KathSeward
    it took me a good 18mths to get on top of things after treatment. 
    I am 4.5yrs since diagnosis TNBC with 4 nodes involved, and I am cancer free... 
    you are entitled to get a Mental health care plan because of your diagnosis and see a psychologist under medicare.... 
    Ask you GP about it.
    It has helped me to talk with the psychologist. 
    It is harsh our treatments be gentle on yourself and allow your body to heal. I found the aches and pains got less as time went on... I still struggle with my neuropathy but I am so much better than when I finished my chemo/rads. 

    Hugs 
    Soldier Crab

  • Hallo Kath ,It is hard. I have only recently finished treatment. My energy levels are low. I can only walk for short distances before my neuropathy in my feet stops me walking and I have to rest. I have not finished. I have just began. I am getting back to a new normal. This is what I do when I am becoming very fearful. I sit or lie down and let every part of my body relax. Then I make myself go somewhere in my mind. There is a lake near us that i used to walk to. I let my mind travel there. I make myself look at it smell it feel it and be there. Acknowledge your fears they are real and then find a distraction.
    Whatever rocks your boat do it.
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    Hey Kath, it's normal to feel the way you do, this disease gives us all concerns about recurrence. Take a deep breath, and just take it 1 day at a time. I started by making a grateful list, by writing down at least 5 things that I am grateful for..........after a while, I started to look for positive things, and after a while it made a big difference. I hope that this helps, Trace