Hi Rowdy,
I also lasted on the Arimidex for 18 months, hot flushes, but especially the intense bone pain. I couldnt take it any longer so after a talk with my oncologist i was offered a script for Tamoxifen. The comment of 'oh have you ever had a blood clot' had alarm bells going off. I thought to myself, i did not go thru chemo multiply surgeries and radiation to die of a stroke or heart attack. So i chose an alternative of seeing a naturopath and going on the Indol3c. that was in 2011 and 2012. Now in 2017 a new cancer arrived and after a bilateral mastectomy i am on Femara - (oh the hot flushes) I am only day 20 post op and have to agree with you there are not a lot of alternatives. One lady I know changed from Arimedex to tamoxifen and still after 5 years she had another cancer return. In saying all this all i can say is collect all the data you can and do what you feel is going to be best for you and your life. Oh and whip that husband in to shape make some new rules and lifestyle changes - if you dont like it let him know you are not the housekeeper and cook. all the very best.