Hey @Rowdy, my oncologist gave me a script for Effexor (antidepressant that is also used for hot flushes). Obviously you'd have to check with your oncologist to make sure you were right to take it and time frames etc but it is something to think about. As far as hubby is concerned just make your own dinner etc and when he complains tell him its because you're tired from doing too much and don't have the energy needed to make his!! Would get the point across. Big hug. Xx Cath