Femara - To take or not to take...

Took Femara from diagnosis in April 2011 together with Bondronat which is to help with the bone damage done by Femara.  Never any suggestions about calcium supplements.  Femara did have side effects but had researched these on internet so was pretty much armed and used some analgesics for aches and pains etc.  Femara stopped working after 11 months and this has been substituted with Aromasin which seems somewhat kinder to the system, but continue withthe Bondronat for bones.  Have never had a bone density test and find this interesting as you would think it necessary to monitor bone health.  Also did not have surgery at any time nor chemo or radiation.  When diagnosed I alread had mets in liver and bones so perhaps they felt it somewhat redundant to remove a breast or do a lumpectomy - shutting the gate after the horse has bolted??  There seems to be no rhyme or consistency to the treatments being received but perhaps this is because we are all different or do GP's and oncologists just fall into a pattern of treatment.  I have often googled for information and do not hesitate to share this with the onc who takes on board with a lovely smirky smile - sort of like a pat on the head - and tells me how they can't keep up with all the literature.  I also am coming to the conclusion that taking the estrogen blockers, especially for someone over 60 who is well and truly post menopausal may be a waste of time - how much estrogen are those adrenal glands actually producing??  Good luck girls and we each need to make decisions about treatments, time and family based on our individual circumstances.