@Lmc1310 It always seems way too much to deal with at once, it sucks!!! Thing is we totally get it and we have all been through hell in different ways. I hate it when people say be positive 'GET LOST' has nothing to do with being positive. As long as you are allowed space to deal with everything in your time and your way. So it means ranting, screaming, crying and then you'll have calm as you say in a few days. Doesnt mean youre not positive it means its hard right now and you are HUMAN!!! So I think youre doing great!!! Deep breath and one thing at a time is the only thing thats got me through the past 6yrs. Im in Education too and I know what you mean, 2015 I lost all of Term 4 due to Chemo was so ill! I resumed back at my previous school Jan 2016 but only worked the entire year on 3 days and income protection, I cant manage more than that plus its an Autism Specific school. I only worked 4 weeks this year and have had surgery 5 weeks ago Mastectomy/Diep Flap Recon LOL I actually don't care anymore. I do miss my kids absolutely, but I learnt to put me above work and I ve been different for it...its on my terms now. I too miss alot of things of my old life, but a new life begins and somehow we start to travel this new road. Its alot to digest and I dont think family and friends realise the extent of this whole thing, physically, mentally and emotionally. Hang in there. Melinda xo