HI Sheree
So sad that your Mum has had a secondary diagnosis. I am hoping that one of the women with secondaries can give you some guidance. None of us here ever expected to be diagnosed with Cancer. Unfortunately there is not rhyme nor reason why.
Whilst the though of pallative care gives us all goose bumps I am told that they do simple things like organise meals, cleaning, and even pain medication and lots of other useful things and it is definately not all about dying. They are actually thinking of changing the name to something that is more useful and not so scary.
Hopefully someone else can post something useful. My thoughts are with you all.
Tanya