Hi Tonya. Thanks so much for your lovely response. I'm quite overwhelmed already by the kindness and understanding I've received just a few hours since my first post.
I'm sorry to hear that you have suffered twice with this terrible disease. You are definitely a brave lady - even if its unwillingly. I have been told so many times how "brave" I am but, in truth, I'm just getting through each day the best way I can. The shock of being diagnosed when you believe yourself to be healthy and still young for a BC diagnosis is huge.
I opted for reconstruction because I couldn't imagine going through life without breasts but, in truth, I was probably just going with what was recommended by my lovely surgeon and not really processing what was happening. I don't regret my reconstruction at all but it has been slow, painful, and somewhat disappointing to realise that perfection is not the end goal for the plastic surgeon - even if it's what I had been hoping for. I am very grateful to be healthy now - I just need my emotions to stabilise! How have you managed to get to a point of feeling normal? I understand the feeling of having surgery "overload" as I have had 5 surgeries since February 2012. The thought of more is difficult.
Again, thanks so much for listening - it's so very much appreciated.