DCIS

I was diagnosed in Sept 2011 when I was 31 and underwent a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction.  I felt like I was in the same boat as you when I found out.  DCIS is a type of breast cancer, just an early stage of breast cancer which has not yet spread or become invasive.  The options feel drastic but the alternatives of not doing anything can potentially be worse.  I was only diagnosed in one breast but based on family history I opted for both to be removed.  I had the option of lumpectomy and radiation but radiation would affect my reconstruction options in the future.  Likewise multiple lumpectomies and radiation also decrease the options of reconstruction.  The decision was extremely hard to make and it took me a while to come to terms with my decision.  I am extremely happy with my decision and am now looking forward to the next chapter in my life (having my first child in 2014).

The 3-6 months after surgery and reconstruction are the hardest and most emotional but take each day as it comes.  You will get there and everything will start to return to normal again.  You will be able to pick up your children.  Just give it some time.  The expanders don't look or feel normal but after you get the implants you will start to feel more "normal". 

Don't feel afraid to ask questions.  I had a really good, helpful and supportive plastic surgeon and breast surgeon who answered my questions (even when I asked the same questions several times in different ways).  I also looked at all of the Australian Cancer sites to get a better understanding. 

I hope this helps you.