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Chorsell
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11 years ago

Can't keep a straight thought

Well it's the night before ..... Well I wish it was Xmas but no it's only the night before my surgeons appt... I should get the date for my double mastectomy and recon - and as much as I want it over I don't know if I am ready for it to be to soon - Feel like I have been tied up in knots today - keep running off to the loo!!! And as good as work have been and they don't seem to be worried - there is a certain amount I feel I need to get done so I can relax and not feel guilty!! Silly I know.. My 16 yo son is struggling I think - the open and honest approach has perhaps given him too much to think about and he really does not want to think or talk about it!!! Hubby is stressed to the max an his protective instinct has gone into overdrive - Hopefully it will all settle soon maybe when we have more details it will be better We can only hope!!! Cheers Chris

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  • Hazel_M's avatar
    Hazel_M
    Member
    11 years ago

    Hope everything goes well with your appointment, I can understand you having mixed emotions, it's a trying time. My partner went into protective mode as well. With smaller problems, women always like to talk it out and men like to just solve the problem and move on, of course with breast cancer, they can't solve it so that must make them feel more helpless. I think the honest approach with your son was a good idea, hopefully he will settle soon when you have a clearer idea of where you are headed, best wishes to you, 

    Hazel xx

  • mum2jj's avatar
    mum2jj
    Member
    11 years ago
    Hope the appointment went well and you now have a clearer idea of proposed surgery. Paula x
  • Susan_Linda's avatar
    Susan_Linda
    Member
    11 years ago
    Good luck with your appointment. Make sure you take someone with you if possible and ask all the questions under the sun! I was in your shoes 7 months ago and whatever you do don't stress about work. Take all the time you need to recover. Good luck, I hope it goes really well.
  • Susan_Linda's avatar
    Susan_Linda
    Member
    11 years ago
    Good luck with your appointment. Make sure you take someone with you if possible and ask all the questions under the sun! I was in your shoes 7 months ago and whatever you do don't stress about work. Take all the time you need to recover. Good luck, I hope it goes really well.
  • mgndam1603's avatar
    mgndam1603
    Member
    11 years ago

    Mixed emotions are perfectly normal, wanting it tob e done and that horrible thing out of us but so unsure of the process.

    As for protective spouses, my goodness my husband went into overdrive, I am guessing its how they cope and once I sorted that out it was ok, my children are adults and they went even more protective than my husband. My daughter came to everything with me, she wanted to know it all and I respected that was what she needed.

    Sons are different and to a teenage boy this must be so confronting, he will manage though and take is queues from his father.

    Try not to stress yourself, I worked myself up over work and to be honest they were so supportive it was all in my head.

    You take care and sending you hugs.

    Donna

  • mgndam1603's avatar
    mgndam1603
    Member
    11 years ago

    Mixed emotions are perfectly normal, wanting it tob e done and that horrible thing out of us but so unsure of the process.

    As for protective spouses, my goodness my husband went into overdrive, I am guessing its how they cope and once I sorted that out it was ok, my children are adults and they went even more protective than my husband. My daughter came to everything with me, she wanted to know it all and I respected that was what she needed.

    Sons are different and to a teenage boy this must be so confronting, he will manage though and take is queues from his father.

    Try not to stress yourself, I worked myself up over work and to be honest they were so supportive it was all in my head.

    You take care and sending you hugs.

    Donna

  • mgndam1603's avatar
    mgndam1603
    Member
    11 years ago

    Mixed emotions are perfectly normal, wanting it tob e done and that horrible thing out of us but so unsure of the process.

    As for protective spouses, my goodness my husband went into overdrive, I am guessing its how they cope and once I sorted that out it was ok, my children are adults and they went even more protective than my husband. My daughter came to everything with me, she wanted to know it all and I respected that was what she needed.

    Sons are different and to a teenage boy this must be so confronting, he will manage though and take is queues from his father.

    Try not to stress yourself, I worked myself up over work and to be honest they were so supportive it was all in my head.

    You take care and sending you hugs.

    Donna