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Smiley_30
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14 years ago

Cancer SUXS!

What a week! This week cancer slapped me in the face bigtime!! Yesterday 7/12/11 was 1 year since I was diagnosed with BC, although I had all my checks 3 weeks ago and everything is good and clear, and I'm feeling great (other than the menopause effects, which I'm fine with) all is good!! Monday 5/12/11 I went to the hospital to visit my friend Alex who has been battling Lung cancer for over 1 year. He was not well, fully sedated to control the pains, only barely being able to open his eyes to acknowledge our presence. I was still optimistic as that's how he always was, and my strength during my treatment, my Chemo buddy! Tuesday I saw his scans! The cancer took over his body in sooooo many places! It was terrible. I couldn't believe what I was looking at. The doctors told his parents could be 1 hour, 1 day, 2 days at most. Thats when I knew that there was no recovery, and I saw how much he was suffering. I stayed by his side and with his family since Monday, only going home to sleep, and get my girls to school, I needed to be there. I saw his determination, his will, strength and power right till the end when he left us at 7:10am 8/12/11. He fought this thing till the end, and didn't give up without a fight! He is the 1st person I have been so close to that has died, and he died due to cancer! At the age of 40! It's just not right or fair what he and his family had to go thru!! Even though I had cancer in my body, I have never been so angry or hated cancer as much as what I have this week! I know he is now resting, and no longer in pain, and that makes me so happy, but he had so much life still. RIP My dear Alex!!!

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  • happylittlevegi's avatar
    happylittlevegi
    Member
    14 years ago

    My sincere condolences to you. It is so sad to see a good friend go through something as horrible as cancer. About two weeks after I was diagnosed with BC, my brother in law passed away after battling non hodkins lymphoma for 7 yrs.He was 33yrs old.  When I finished chemo my best friends mother passed away from an aggressive tumour, she just turned 55. From the time she found out to passing was a matter of months! Now I've finished all treatment another close friend of mine was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer she too is 40yr old and never smoked in her life! Through my bc journey I've lost a few people very dear to me and I tell you, I've never hated anything as much as I hate this disease!!! As Leonie said you need to live your life the best you can in Alex's honour. Big hugs going out to you

  • Deeay's avatar
    Deeay
    Member
    14 years ago
    Sorry Soly. It's terrible to see someone so close to death. I also have a good friend in the final stages of Ovarian Cancer. She is always in good spirits despite her suffering. If nothing else, cancer can bring out the best in you, right?
  • Deeay's avatar
    Deeay
    Member
    14 years ago
    Sorry Soly. It's terrible to see someone so close to death. I also have a good friend in the final stages of Ovarian Cancer. She is always in good spirits despite her suffering. If nothing else, cancer can bring out the best in you, right?
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    Kathryne
    Member
    14 years ago

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend, Cancer is evil and I hate it too. Remember the good times you shared with him and live your life for both of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

    Hugs Kathryne XX

  • pisces_tas's avatar
    pisces_tas
    Member
    14 years ago

    Yes, bad things happen to good people. It is sad, and I hear your anger too.  Thank you for the post and sorry you are enduring the loss of your dear friend, who was there for you.  OOXX.

    Love, Kathy.

  • pisces_tas's avatar
    pisces_tas
    Member
    14 years ago

    Yes, bad things happen to good people. It is sad, and I hear your anger too.  Thank you for the post and sorry you are enduring the loss of your dear friend, who was there for you.  OOXX.

    Love, Kathy.

  • Leonie_Moore's avatar
    Leonie_Moore
    Member
    14 years ago

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.  It is always very hard to bear but you know what I have lost some very dear friends since my first diagnosis and this is what I choose to do. " Live the best life I can in their honour" - now that they are not here I try to "live" how I think they would want to.  Remember the good times and learn from the tough times.  There is not a day goes by that I don't think of my good friend who lost her battle against bc nearly 4 years ago.  She loved her garden as I do - so every time I am out in mine I have her with me. You have had a lot to "bear" in your young years but I feel that you going to give a lot back to so many.  Your wonderful smile brings happiness to my day!!!! XLeonie

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    Leonie_Moore
    Member
    14 years ago

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.  It is always very hard to bear but you know what I have lost some very dear friends since my first diagnosis and this is what I choose to do. " Live the best life I can in their honour" - now that they are not here I try to "live" how I think they would want to.  Remember the good times and learn from the tough times.  There is not a day goes by that I don't think of my good friend who lost her battle against bc nearly 4 years ago.  She loved her garden as I do - so every time I am out in mine I have her with me. You have had a lot to "bear" in your young years but I feel that you going to give a lot back to so many.  Your wonderful smile brings happiness to my day!!!! XLeonie