Am I normal?

I think as the psychologist i saw said to me, people react in different ways but they mostly fall into 3 categories, fight, flight or freeze. I fell into the fight category see-sawing between anger and total frustration, didn't help that my husband was also going through cancer at the same time. Now that a year has passed things have calmed down heaps and life is good.
Going skiing next week...it should be fab!

Perhaps you might consider that angry people are sometimes very vocal, so their anger is apparent. I don't think any illness is inherently malicious, fair or unfair, it just is. Cancer, like any life threatening condition, needs positive energy. I suspect your experience with the reality of death as a natural part of life allows you to understand cancer in that context - not a welcome part, but part nevertheless. From nearly 6 years out, I have little to mourn and much to be grateful for. You sound anything but wierd to me! 

I don't think that there are any right or wrong emotions to feel although as you would know from your working experience there are the expected staging of emotions for grief.  Although, I haven't worked in the field, I've too much personal experience in dealing with death and trauma around me.  With this, I have certainly felt anger and absolute white-hot rage but not so much for "why me?" (although I'm no saint and that has certainly featured) - it's more directed at the cancer itself and the changes that it has forced on me.  Some days I'm so angry, I could bite!  Other times, I'm wallowing in despair.  But mostly it's about coping with the fallout of the cancer and I'm really focusing on the hope that this will pass as I move through treatment.

@Joannie I haven’t felt any anger either - it’s all just been a shock and a rush to get through treatment. I have booked to go see a shrink next month to talk through things. 

@Joannie, you are not alone. I have never felt anger or asked the "why me" question. I do not believe that I am strange because of this. I too have experience of working with the dying and within rehabilitation where people mourned because of the change caused by their changed circumstances. Perhaps this gives us a different perspective of our experience, afterall, we have seen the reality of life.