very very newbie - Im good.. or am i?
so im new to a diagnosis of breast cancer- i am single with 2 children recently left home- Right from the get go 4 weeks ago i thought there were issues- with country living i have had bumps and thu...
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Gives you the shits, doesn't it. People mean well--most of them--but you still want to slap them.
The constant retelling of the same details is just exhausting. I'm notoriously grumpy which means no one is surprised when I tell them I don't want to talk about it. I've told the less well meaning to 'Make something up, you will anyway'.
Ive done the whole cancer thing twice and both times I've found the initial weeks the hardest. This time not so much so as I've kept it pretty quiet, but the first time I thought I was going to end up slaughtering some one. Any one. The next person who opened their mouth... My mother rang all her friends and told them then they started ringing me--I don't know these bloody women, WTF am I meant to say to a pack of inquisitive old trouts?
Anyway, as Jennie said, things do settle down. Don't let anyone who pisses you off hang around; most of us have a couple of unpleasant surprises when it comes to who is useful and who is not. The flip side of that is you will find support in unlikely places. Like you, I got really angry with surgeons and health care folk who said stupid things to me. That's fine. Sack them and talk to someone else. You can always do that, even in the public system.
Marg.
The constant retelling of the same details is just exhausting. I'm notoriously grumpy which means no one is surprised when I tell them I don't want to talk about it. I've told the less well meaning to 'Make something up, you will anyway'.
Ive done the whole cancer thing twice and both times I've found the initial weeks the hardest. This time not so much so as I've kept it pretty quiet, but the first time I thought I was going to end up slaughtering some one. Any one. The next person who opened their mouth... My mother rang all her friends and told them then they started ringing me--I don't know these bloody women, WTF am I meant to say to a pack of inquisitive old trouts?
Anyway, as Jennie said, things do settle down. Don't let anyone who pisses you off hang around; most of us have a couple of unpleasant surprises when it comes to who is useful and who is not. The flip side of that is you will find support in unlikely places. Like you, I got really angry with surgeons and health care folk who said stupid things to me. That's fine. Sack them and talk to someone else. You can always do that, even in the public system.
Marg.