When I was first diagnosed I felt the same as you. What? Why? When? I had many people offer advise who had been through the same thing. However we are all slightly different and will all have slightly different treatments. I am having chemo first (only one other person I know had this first) then surgery then radiation. Someone suggested I get from the library a book by Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book. It is very informative. I would also get the 'my Journey Kit' from this site. Again good information. I wanted to know as much as I could, so that when I saw the specialist I knew what he was talking about. Because believe me it is a lot to take in! Make sure you take someone with you too.
this site has some amazing people who will help you through it all and don't be afraid to ask anything.
I've just had my second chemo yesterday. I have four more to go. I think I'm doing ok. Lots of support always helps.
best of luck to you. Let us know how you are getting on. ??