Hi,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I can only imagine how overwhelming everything must feel for you right now, and I’m truly sorry to hear about all the challenges you’ve faced recently. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer in September last year, and it turned my whole world upside down. I am a mom of an 8-year-old, and every time I looked at him, my heart ached. I had lobular breast cancer in my left breast and some suspicious cells in my right. I underwent one attempted mammogram biopsy, which had to be aborted because I nearly passed out, and then another biopsy where the doctor was unsure if they had examined the right area. I was offered a lumpectomy or mastectomy on my left breast, but I needed to continue investigating the suspicious cells in my right breast. I requested a double mastectomy because I just wanted to move forward with surgery, and I was also a bit apprehensive about the characteristics of lobular cancer. To be honest, I think it was the best decision for me, as I won’t need yearly mammograms. Being an already anxious person, I didn't think that would be good for my mental health. I have never regretted my decision.
It’s completely understandable to have many questions and concerns as you navigate this new journey regarding your health. When you meet with your breast surgeon, I hope you feel empowered to ask everything on your list. It’s important to have clarity on your options, especially when making decisions about your body and future.
Regarding post-surgery support, I found the healing process to be less stressful and less painful than I anticipated, but everyone is different. Button-down tops are a must, as are mastectomy pillows to place under your arms to avoid irritation. My friends kindly made me many meals that I could freeze, so I didn’t have to worry about dinner every night. Lifting heavy objects is obviously not recommended, so make sure you have someone to help with that. I found that getting out for a walk each day was really helpful for my mental health when I was able to do so.
I live in Brisbane, so I can’t recommend grief counseling, but I am sure that this network or the Council can offer you counseling if you get in touch.
Please know that you’re not alone in this journey. Your friends and family care about you deeply, and they will want to support you in any way they can. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to lean on them or connect with us through the forum. It is a roller coaster of a journey, but you will get through to the other side.
Take care of yourself, and give yourself grace as you navigate this. I’m sending you lots of positive thoughts and strength for the journey ahead.
Warmly,
Susie
