Hi Jenny66, it's a lot to take in at first and you feel like it's all just a bad dream.It's a scary,anxious time but once you have a plan, you'll feel abit better.A DIEP recon is huge surgery and can always be done at a later date. You need to talk to your surgeon and plastic surgeon and have all your questions answered before you can decide. One question I would ask is what happens if the surgeon doesn't get a clear margin and you've had the DIEP done? My friend had a mastectomy and had to go back to theatre twice to get clear margins. Perhaps you could join the reconstruction group on this network? The ladies will give you lots of info and support.I, myself have had bc twice. The first time I had a lumpectomy and radiation in 2003.Cancer came back in the same breast 7 years later(2010) so I had to have a mastectomy and then chemo. If I have recon I can only have a DIEP because of my previous radiation- skin is never the same.I haven't rushed into it as its huge surgery and I'd like to research first ie, best plastic surgeon, both breasts or one? We are all different and some women can't bare the thought of waking up without a breast. For me, it was like get the cancer out quick smart and I'll deal with the consequences later. I'm used to a prosthesis now but get abit sick of the lopsided thing. Just do all your research, take into account your doc's recommendation and go with your gut- what feels right for you at this point in time.All the bc decisions you have to make are awful anyway.Keep coming back here for support because we know what you are going through.Big hug.xx