Quality of Life or Quantity they asked me?

Hi @Dawnc What the?? Choices we make are based on the best information we have at the time and the circumstances we are in.  So hard to be back in this space for  you again yet alone being asked that question prior to any appointments.  I can imagine your mind would be spinning and as there are no guarantees with any decision it would feel perhaps a bit like Russian roulette.. With what you have experienced with your family it would be a very weighty question to add to your new load. Don't think I can offer any advice except to listen, arm yourself with a notebook and wait to see the outcome of the appointments.. it will give you some sort of game plan perhaps... hugs. xo