Panic attacks
I've just been diagnosed and have an appointment with the surgeon on Friday. It is my daughters birthday on Sunday so none of my family apart from my partner and one or two close friends know. Su...
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Ah, @NotHappyJan, I feel you. Not quite the same, but similar.
I received my breastscreen recall letter in November, amidst all the end of year school functions that my four kids had. Two of those kids are my sister's. My husband and I are raising them because 17 months before my diagnosis, my sister died from breast cancer.
I told no one except my husband about the recall. I was diagnosed on Monday, at which point we told all the kids (swearing them to secrecy) because I was not going to be there the next day and night, had the tumour removed on Tuesday, found out on Thursday that I needed a re-excision to get clear margins, threw a huge 18th birthday party for my eldest on Saturday and had the next operation on the following Tuesday. Then we told some people.
Christmas was now 12 days away so I made the decision to not tell the next group until after Christmas. And one friend I didn't tell until late January because she and her family were going on the trip of a lifetime to France.
My breastcare nurse and all the doctors bar my oncologist promptly disappeared for the Christmas break. Then the onc disappeared as I started chemo. I didn't get a chemo education session. They don't run them at Christmas...
Don't get cancer and if you do, don't get it at Christmas...
It's always inconvenient. But there's nothing to it but to submit. Keeping calm is good if that helps you, as is trying not to drink too much! The beginning is so hard but once you have a treatment plan it gets better.
I was very keen on keeping it a secret but was cautioned against it by my breast surgeon and breastcare nurse. They were right. But you get to control who and when you tell.
Hang in there and hang out here if it helps. We're always good for a rant, vent, question and even the odd laugh. Big hug, K xox
PS Congrats on the job!
I received my breastscreen recall letter in November, amidst all the end of year school functions that my four kids had. Two of those kids are my sister's. My husband and I are raising them because 17 months before my diagnosis, my sister died from breast cancer.
I told no one except my husband about the recall. I was diagnosed on Monday, at which point we told all the kids (swearing them to secrecy) because I was not going to be there the next day and night, had the tumour removed on Tuesday, found out on Thursday that I needed a re-excision to get clear margins, threw a huge 18th birthday party for my eldest on Saturday and had the next operation on the following Tuesday. Then we told some people.
Christmas was now 12 days away so I made the decision to not tell the next group until after Christmas. And one friend I didn't tell until late January because she and her family were going on the trip of a lifetime to France.
My breastcare nurse and all the doctors bar my oncologist promptly disappeared for the Christmas break. Then the onc disappeared as I started chemo. I didn't get a chemo education session. They don't run them at Christmas...
Don't get cancer and if you do, don't get it at Christmas...
It's always inconvenient. But there's nothing to it but to submit. Keeping calm is good if that helps you, as is trying not to drink too much! The beginning is so hard but once you have a treatment plan it gets better.
I was very keen on keeping it a secret but was cautioned against it by my breast surgeon and breastcare nurse. They were right. But you get to control who and when you tell.
Hang in there and hang out here if it helps. We're always good for a rant, vent, question and even the odd laugh. Big hug, K xox
PS Congrats on the job!