SO Sorry to see you here, @Della - but welcome to the club that no one wants to join! I'm glad you've found us - as we've been thru it too, so we can all relate to your feelings.
I went private for surgery (but it can leave you with quite a bit out of pocket expenses), then public for radiation, which was free .... You can ask your surgeon if they work in the private system as well as public - just make sure you ask what the fees are for private - or it can be a bit of a shock! Everyone wants it done as soon as possible .... Do you have a surgery date yet? I was lucky & had my surgery 2 weeks after my diagnosis, but some have longer waits ... .
Definitely have someone with you for your appointments and even consider recording the meetings on your phone, to refer to later, as it is very difficult to remember everything that is said xx
When you have a few minutes, check out these links for a bit more info on the forum .... yes, we even have a giggle too.
Make sure you avoid Dr Google as every BC case is different & a lot of info there is irrelevant to your condition. Also, try & keep your sense of humour 'up there' as it will help you get through any tough days - we have a really good 'funnies page' (called Friday Funnies, but we add them every day!!) Just click on the link to add pics and posts ...
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/19116/friday-funnies#latest
If you are into arts & crafts, we have a 'Creative Corner'
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/14979/creative-corner#latest
and if into your garden, a Gardening post as well!!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/comment/186078
And we now have a Fishing post, as that is one of my passions!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/19494/fishing-brag-pics
If you have 'fur kids' - put their pic here & describe their funny antics ... https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/comment/92526
We even have a funny Xmas page .... feel free to add any that you’ve seen - it is not that far til Xmas!!!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/20086/christmas-funnies-put-them-up-here-for-a-laugh#latest
When you have some time ... check out the blog by a female British Breast Surgeon who went on to develop Breast Cancer, with recurrence. She was amazed at just how much it changed her life, both mentally and physically ... and validates all our own ‘aches and pains’ ... if your Onc doesn’t believe you when you discuss side effects - get THEM to read this too!
http://liz.oriordan.co.uk/
As you haven't had your surgery yet, we have some posts here on what you may like to take with you to hospital, to make it 'easier' on you - I definitely recommend ear plugs & eye masks, as hospitals are lit up 24/7 and are noisy places!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/16442/prep-for-surgery/p1
And for your post op check up & annual checkups, here are some ‘tick sheets’ to help you put your questions together for your medical team. (Make sure you click on the documents at the BOTTOM of the post, as the others are only sample pages.)
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/21973/questions-to-ask-post-surgery-of-yourself-to-your-specialists-tick-sheets-self-assessment/p1
Take care, and all the best for your upcoming appointments re surgery! xx