Not doing so well tonight
I had my breast reduction local wide excision with 3 nodes removed yesterday. My partner did not offer to come in, so he went to work and I did it on my own. I was a bit disappointed that he did not...
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What a wonderful post, @AllyJay xxx
@Sazbe - I was very lucky in having a guardian angel who is 5 years clear of BC as my mentor - she lives in Qld, I am in NSW. I was able to put all my fears & tears past her & she was able to calm me down & put me on a steady course - she is also a nurse. I hope one of your buddies or a family member will step up to the plate in this caring role - as it is important to have someone who you can be totally truthful with from the start.
My husband has dementia and is supportive 'in his way' but is not always 'there' for me ..... I really feel for both you and your partner - I can only imagine the stress that he is going thru since your own diagnosis - which only compounds your own stress.
Where abouts are you (town/city) - some of our members may know of BC services available in your area. Has your BC nurse given you a pillow/cushion for support of your arm? Mine was invaluable.
Definitely keep up the pain killers on a regular basis for at least a week (whether you think you need them or not) as once the pain breaks thru the meds barrier - it takes even longer to control it again.
When you DO go home - be aware that every bump in the road may 'jar' your boob - and it may well hurt (I know mine did!) I was grabbing my boob at every known bump in the road at my home town (and there are hundreds!)
As the others have said - be kind to yourself, make haste slowly - it will take time, but it will get better.
take care, thinking of you xx
@Sazbe - I was very lucky in having a guardian angel who is 5 years clear of BC as my mentor - she lives in Qld, I am in NSW. I was able to put all my fears & tears past her & she was able to calm me down & put me on a steady course - she is also a nurse. I hope one of your buddies or a family member will step up to the plate in this caring role - as it is important to have someone who you can be totally truthful with from the start.
My husband has dementia and is supportive 'in his way' but is not always 'there' for me ..... I really feel for both you and your partner - I can only imagine the stress that he is going thru since your own diagnosis - which only compounds your own stress.
Where abouts are you (town/city) - some of our members may know of BC services available in your area. Has your BC nurse given you a pillow/cushion for support of your arm? Mine was invaluable.
Definitely keep up the pain killers on a regular basis for at least a week (whether you think you need them or not) as once the pain breaks thru the meds barrier - it takes even longer to control it again.
When you DO go home - be aware that every bump in the road may 'jar' your boob - and it may well hurt (I know mine did!) I was grabbing my boob at every known bump in the road at my home town (and there are hundreds!)
As the others have said - be kind to yourself, make haste slowly - it will take time, but it will get better.
take care, thinking of you xx