Newly diagnosed

Everyone has given you great advice, especially the one step at a time. Most of us struggle with the waiting and it pays to keep busy during this time. I reacted by finding out what I could do to help prepare myself for what maybe ahead. I kept up my exercise because this helped my body and mind to cope with the stress. Once I knew that I had to have surgery I just concentrated on getting prepared for this in practical ways. Googling is hard to resist but please stick to reputable sites such as this one, the cancer council, Cancer Australia and gov sites. There is some very unreliable misinformation out there. You get through everything by just taking it one day, sometimes one hour at a time. Wonderful support from the ladies on here will help you too. Wishing you all the best for whatever treatment you may need. Deanne xxx

Hi Kareena,  Welcome to this wonderful forum - you have definitely come to the right place.   I rememer the terror of hearing that I had cancer. Like you my doctor called me, Melbourne Cup Day last year, with the dreaded result.  That day was the worst of all.  The anticipation and waiting for the result and then the call.  

The best advice that I have been given here and by my medical team is to " take one day at a time".  

Everyone is different, but as soon as I found out I told everyone, my family and closest friends.  News spread quickly and before I new it old friends and new friends were there and encouraging me with love and support.  

Of course, none of them really understand what I am going through and this is where this site is so important.  You won't feel so alone if you spend time here with us.  However, the love and emotional support from everyone else is what brings me happiness.   I stay connected, by ringing emailing, private messaging on FB and skyping my friends and enquiring about their lives.  They too have their struggles.  I try very hard to keep things as normal as possible and be someone people want to be around.

Once your oncologist gives you your plan of treatment you will find you feel more settled.  It is the waiting and wondering about how each step works that is the difficult part of all this.  Oh, another great piece of advice I learned here was to understant that "anticipation is worse than paricipation".  I have found this to be totally true.  When I get scared about any new treatments, I remind myself of this.

I have only had one lot of chemo and due to have my 2nd round this Friday and I feel less stressed about it this time than for the first round.

I wondered how people get through it but we just do.  Keep coming here and you will be inspired by some really great women.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and I know you can do it.

Big Hugs

Joy xx

 

Hi Kareena, I'm so sorry to learn of your news. I know it comes as a major shock to the system to hear those words. I was diagnosed in Nov and have since had a mastectomy with full axillary clearance to remove my tumor which took up most of my breast and have just entered my third week of my first cycle of chemo. It's tough. I won't lie to you. But if you take it step by step and take each day as it comes you will find it very doable. Try not to google too much. Everyone's experience is different so your best just asking people in this forum or other forums and your breast care nurse for advice as you go. I've found that has really helped me. All the best hon, keep us posted on how your going. Cheers, Janina

Hi Kareena, I'm so sorry to learn of your news. I know it comes as a major shock to the system to hear those words. I was diagnosed in Nov and have since had a mastectomy with full axillary clearance to remove my tumor which took up most of my breast and have just entered my third week of my first cycle of chemo. It's tough. I won't lie to you. But if you take it step by step and take each day as it comes you will find it very doable. Try not to google too much. Everyone's experience is different so your best just asking people in this forum or other forums and your breast care nurse for advice as you go. I've found that has really helped me. All the best hon, keep us posted on how your going. Cheers, Janina

sorry to hear your news. Robyn is spot on, just take each day as it comes. Keep a notepad and a pen and write down any questions and concerns so you remember to ask your doctor. I was diagnosed 30th Oct last year so still remember very clear the emotions you go through when diagnosed. We are all here for you and if you ever want a chat I am always happy to meet up for a coffee xxx Take care xxx Tina

sorry to hear your news. Robyn is spot on, just take each day as it comes. Keep a notepad and a pen and write down any questions and concerns so you remember to ask your doctor. I was diagnosed 30th Oct last year so still remember very clear the emotions you go through when diagnosed. We are all here for you and if you ever want a chat I am always happy to meet up for a coffee xxx Take care xxx Tina