Newly diagnosed - Just want to hit the pause button

Hello @missK4t
Firstly, congratulations on your daughter 🎉♥️. I have a daughter too, and it’s just the most precious thing. My idiot ex ruined my pregnancy with her, but these days I mostly have memories of how wonderful it was to be pregnant with her. Then her birth, one of the happiest days of my life, and feeling special and content since then, no matter what life threw at me. She’s 8 now, and more special than ever. She’s my little helper and bff. Her father put me through hell the last 7 years, even though we’ve been apart since she was 1, and I seriously believe that is the main cause of my breast cancer. However, as hard as it has been, it’s also been beautiful, and that’s what I remember now: the beautiful times and emotions, not the hardship. Life will keep throwing lemons, and we need to keep smacking them back. Or we can take them, put raw sugar on them and eat them, to increase our health. One way or the other, we have two choices, sink or swim. I think you have a lot to swim for at the moment. Triple neg bc is definitely not something you ever want to have to deal with, but it’s dealable. Good news is, heaps of women have survived it. This is a long road to recovery, so take it step by step. Dwelling on the future will get you nowhere except stressville. Focussing on the present, and enjoying as much of your beautiful girl as you can, will keep you in joyville. You have to try and enjoy the moment as much as possible, and treat yourself whenever possible to things you love. The rest will take care of itself with the help of your medical team. Be aware and ask lots of questions to inform yourself of what’s happening, so you can make good decisions about your treatment. But don’t get stuck there. Don’t allow cancer to rule your life, it doesn’t deserve such a privileged role.