Thanks Deanne. Reading replies like yours puts a smile on my face so a big help. I had my second surgery yesterday and went well but a bad night with pain. Better today though so that's good. He did drain some fluid away from under the arm while I was out to it but didn't think it would give me future problems - see him next week so he can check it out then. Appointments next Monday to talk about chemo and radiation treatment, glad it's soon as million questions in my head right now. I have great support from my husband, family and friends so am very lucky. I'm going to need you guys too as you have been there and that's the only way to truly understand I guess.