Gavin - do you know of the Cancer Council in Perth (Cottesloe)? You can phone their counsellors with any questions or concerns. I have found them to be both friendly and informative, they know how to listen. I have also found this discussion list to be a 'life saver' at times and this community has some very well informed contributors, for example, do you go Public or Private? What about work? And all the information you could hope for with regard to treatments, medications, dealing with the 'experts'. You will also learn that priorities change, some things just have to be let go, being diagnosed is sufficient to create stress and fatigue for all family members.