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Hi all I was diagnosed with Early BC on 1 Aug and had my surgery last Friday 11 Aug. Am home now feeling sore, tired and still overwhelmed. Most of all I feel guilty that I can't look after my family...
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I am SO Sorry to see you join our select little group, @Dessi xx. It sounds like you have been a very strong woman looking after your family over the years, but right now, I think you need a bit of space - as you need to look after YOU in the next few months til you get a handle on this xx.
Just the anaesthetic will make you feel sleepy & 'off' for a while as well as 'foggy memory' - so stay in your PJs for a while & sleep it off - you'll know when you are ready to 'dress up' and go out! You are still VERY early in your recovery journey - and rest is a major part of it. If you want to catch up with your girlfriends for a coffee - get one to pick you up for now & drop you home again ..... it may be quite tiring for you - so take advantage of any offers of meals, driving & anything else that you can't manage on your own just now.
Wait a wee while before you get back into exercise ..... VERY GENTLE exercise 'should' be fine (pain will tell you to STOP) .... but you can't swim til after your wounds have healed fully.
If you find it becoming a bit overwhelming, please ring our lovely ladies on the Helpline on 1800 500 258, as this disease really mucks with your BRAIN, even more than your body xx
I wasn't working when I was diagnosed - so hopefully someone else will jump in & advise you on THAT side of things - but if you've been paying for income protection insurance - it sounds fair to me, that you should be able to put in a claim ..... take the paperwork WITH YOU next time you see your surgeon - and get him to fill it in ANYWAY, I reckon - you may or may not 'use it' but at least you'll have it with you already! (Keep a photocopy of it too!)
Rads and hormone suppressants are 'all that bad' .... everyone is different & are affected differently .... so try not to pre-judge treatments at this point in time.
take care, look after YOU - your family needs to step up to the plate & take the pressure off you just now xx
Just the anaesthetic will make you feel sleepy & 'off' for a while as well as 'foggy memory' - so stay in your PJs for a while & sleep it off - you'll know when you are ready to 'dress up' and go out! You are still VERY early in your recovery journey - and rest is a major part of it. If you want to catch up with your girlfriends for a coffee - get one to pick you up for now & drop you home again ..... it may be quite tiring for you - so take advantage of any offers of meals, driving & anything else that you can't manage on your own just now.
Wait a wee while before you get back into exercise ..... VERY GENTLE exercise 'should' be fine (pain will tell you to STOP) .... but you can't swim til after your wounds have healed fully.
If you find it becoming a bit overwhelming, please ring our lovely ladies on the Helpline on 1800 500 258, as this disease really mucks with your BRAIN, even more than your body xx
I wasn't working when I was diagnosed - so hopefully someone else will jump in & advise you on THAT side of things - but if you've been paying for income protection insurance - it sounds fair to me, that you should be able to put in a claim ..... take the paperwork WITH YOU next time you see your surgeon - and get him to fill it in ANYWAY, I reckon - you may or may not 'use it' but at least you'll have it with you already! (Keep a photocopy of it too!)
Rads and hormone suppressants are 'all that bad' .... everyone is different & are affected differently .... so try not to pre-judge treatments at this point in time.
take care, look after YOU - your family needs to step up to the plate & take the pressure off you just now xx