Hi Trish, it is all a bit unreal to begin with, I was diagnosed after a routine mammogram just before my 51st birthday, I had no idea anything was wrong. I was diagnosed with 2cm stage 2 grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma with 1 lymph node involved. Because the cancer was aggressive I had a lumpectomy, chemo and will soon move on to radiation and hormone therapy. Diagnosis and all the tests and appointments are a bit of a whirlwind, so take someone along with you if you can. If you have access to a McGrath Nurse get in contact with them, they've been such a help through my journey. I'm nearing the end of chemo, it's been manageable. If you've been reading other posts you'll know that chemo side effects vary from person to person, but they are much better at managing them. Best wishes for your journey.