Hi ladies. My name is tracey im 56 . Sad angry and petrified. Was diagnosed 6th feb. The big C word hit me like a tonne v bricks. However, being the tough bird that i am i made sure that i kept my stiff upper lip for the world. Family included. Unfortunately my sister has just been disgnosed with bowel cancer a fortnight before. Mum got bladder cancer last yearbut clear now. We were always the faily everyone else thought was so lucky. We never had any illness or accidents. No all this at once.I cannot believe it. I know im supposed to be relaxed and calm my mind and meditate etc but icannot shut down. Either dwelling on my lot or my sisters'. Cant sleep, not fussed about food. Constantly exhausted, still working. A glass or three of wine at night helps, but not good to do. Just want to get something done. 7th march is my apntmnt with surgeon then surgery they say about a week later. Bring it on.

Hi @Me2 Just want to welcome you to the group, none of us would want to belong to and encourage you. You have a right to be angry and sad and petrified, we are here to help you navigate your way through this horrible diagnosis. Feel free to Rant we understand and get it. Tracey you are allowed to get a Mental Health plan from your GP when you have a diagnosis of cancer and go to see a psychologist I highly recommend doing that you have such a lot that has hit your family in one go... https://www.psychology.org.au/FindaPsychologist/Default.aspxOnce you have seen your surgeon you will feel a bit more in control. Do you have a Breast Care Nurse? http://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspxhave you got the My Journey Kit? https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/You sure have had a lot to cope with in a short space of time.... HUGS and energy to deal with it. Soldier Crab aka Alice xoxox

Hi! Once you've had the visit with the surgeon where you know what type of surgery is best for you the mush will become a little clearer. Yes it is a so and so and Alice has given you some links to help navigate some information. It is perfectly normal to feel lost, confused, off your food, not sleeping much! All those things but it will change!Take care

Hi TraceyNow is not the time to be worried that you don't have a calm mind--that would be so unusual it would be creepy! It's normal to be red lining. Our bodies are weird things, all that adrenaline roaring around in the beginning is a very natural response to a very threatening situation. Acceptance of your diagnosis takes some effort and some of us struggle, personally I'm rubbish at it. Your family issues on top of your own are a huge load but we are stronger than we realize. Once you start treatment you will have something else to focus on and that feeling of pointlessly treading water abates a bit.it's bad news for both you and your sister but you'll start to figure out how the system works (knowledge most of us would be probably prefer to be ignorant of) which will eventually make the whole mess a little less confusing. You will have time to concentrate on your relaxation techniques later.Best of luck.Marg

@Me2 thing Ive come to learn is, expect the unexpected. You would be numb right now and rightfully so, its overwhelming and its frightening where you are, with no answers and no direction. So bring on March 7 to begin only then will things feel like they are moving and you are closer to knowing what you have and what treatment is required. Its normal to be all over the place and you have others to worry about. Definitely keep talking here, between us all we have a wealth of knowledge and experience and above all else endless support and hugs! You are not alone even when it feels you are we get it. So all I can say is where you are right now is super tough....so distract and occupy as best you can as its out of your hands. I found doing little things for myself alone that helped me feel centred and peaceful somehow amongst the chaos worked. As simple as sipping my green tea in the sunshine on a mild day or a walk in nature, whatever that thing is that brings this feeling of peace in that moment where you just BE and not focus on anything outside of that moment. Big Hugs, Alice is right, talking to someone can help at some point too and you do get 6 free consults under a Mental Health Plan..I always found my Breast Care Nurse was wonderful and there to listen I only ever rang twice but oh boy was a meltdown! LOL Theres certainly plenty of support. So deep breath! Melinda xo

Hello Tracey, so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It is completely overwhelming, mind shattering, frightening and unbelievable at first. We understand, we have been there. These early days are so difficult. I know it seems hard to believe but you will start to feel better and more in control when you see your surgeon and get a plan in place. There is so much to take in at first and things start to move so quickly. It really helped me to use a note book to write down all the questions I thought of between appointments. There are no stupid questions! It can be information overload with the specialists and I always seemed to forget to ask something. Plus it was a good feeling to cross my questions off! There are so many strong and supportive women on this site. It is a safe place to be yourself - you don't need to put up a front or be strong. Share how you feel, ask questions. You will amaze yourself with how strong you can be and remember, you are not alone. We are all here for you. Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Sending you a huge hug, Jane xx

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iserbrown
Member
9 years ago
Hi! Once you've had the visit with the surgeon where you know what type of surgery is best for you the mush will become a little clearer. Yes it is a so and so and Alice has given you some links to help navigate some information. It is perfectly normal to feel lost, confused, off your food, not sleeping much! All those things but it will change!
Take care
SoldierCrab
Member
9 years ago
Hi @Me2 Just want to welcome you to the group, none of us would want to belong to and encourage you. You have a right to be angry and sad and petrified, we are here to help you navigate your way through this horrible diagnosis.
Feel free to Rant we understand and get it.

Tracey you are allowed to get a Mental Health plan from your GP when you have a diagnosis of cancer and go to see a psychologist I highly recommend doing that you have such a lot that has hit your family in one go...
https://www.psychology.org.au/FindaPsychologist/Default.aspx

Once you have seen your surgeon you will feel a bit more in control.
Do you have a Breast Care Nurse? http://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx
have you got the My Journey Kit? https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/

You sure have had a lot to cope with in a short space of time....

HUGS and energy to deal with it.
Soldier Crab aka Alice xoxox

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