Hi there @Kerry-Lee47 .I'm the Ally Jay mentioned above. I have been treated for triple positive, grade 3, stage three, multifocal with node involvement, sooo basically a bee's dick away from stage four. I decided to take this shitfest on with both barrels and have no regrets. Bilateral chop, full lymph clearance on the left, sentinal node on the right and the full chemo drill. Rads were off the table due to another pre existing condition (scleroderma). During the chemo "experience" or "journey"...god I hate those terms used..I looked at it like this. I imagined the military tackling terrorists and using cluster bombs to annihilate them. Sure there were civilian casualties, the sods were hiding in civilian houses in civilian villages of course. Very bad and very sad, but if they got away, they would carry on with their murderous agenda. So, if the bombs took out the innocent, at least they got the bastards as well. I said to myself that if the good cells were taking a beating, then surely the baddies were too. Take no prisoners. After all, it's not the cancer in your breasts that would kill you, it was just one faulty bastard that went walkabout and set up shop elsewhere that would be the problem. Listen to your team, educate yourself appropriately and then follow your intellectual heart. You may get little or no side effects, or you may get many, it's an unknown, much like pregnancy and childbirth, but you can do it. Your sisters (and a few brothers) in arms on this site will be here, day and night, to walk with you...you are not alone. Sending the biggest (((hug))).