Im alone and dont want to burden others
Hi all. I was diagnosed Wednesday. Had to tell kids parents and a few friends. had MRI CT Bone scan waiting a week for results. Now have to go xmas shopping. Its exhausting mentally physically and emo...
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Yeah, supporting other people when you are being sucked into the mincer is tough. Emotions run high when the shit hits the fan--cancer pushes everyones buttons.
It's rare to have a friend who knows what (or what not) to do unless they have been in a similar situation. Even then, revisiting their own experience can make people a little bit crazy unless they are remarkably well adjusted. I don't know many well adjusted people--most who appear so are just pretending. If we are really lucky, we get a real one, the next best thing is a good actor.
Ms Kubler-Ross had a good handle on the grief process, I think. The second stage is anger and that is where we can be destructive because we are furious and even the tiniest irritation can bring on a full blown temper tantrum. Off with their heads. How bloody dare someone talk about us, ring too often, not often enough, make useless suggestions, not offer to help...This is tough, Meg. Hang in there. Mxx
It's rare to have a friend who knows what (or what not) to do unless they have been in a similar situation. Even then, revisiting their own experience can make people a little bit crazy unless they are remarkably well adjusted. I don't know many well adjusted people--most who appear so are just pretending. If we are really lucky, we get a real one, the next best thing is a good actor.
Ms Kubler-Ross had a good handle on the grief process, I think. The second stage is anger and that is where we can be destructive because we are furious and even the tiniest irritation can bring on a full blown temper tantrum. Off with their heads. How bloody dare someone talk about us, ring too often, not often enough, make useless suggestions, not offer to help...This is tough, Meg. Hang in there. Mxx