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Iamthefreespiri
12 years agoMember
I am new to this
I am new to all this, having been diagnosed on 11 August 2014 and having my first surgery on 21 August 2014. I have already been told that I will be having another surgery as the nodes that were removed are 'sticky'.
I don't know how this is going to progress and what to expect. I have been told it is an emotional roller coaster however I am not feeling anything.
I have the support of my partner only, my family is east side while I am west side. I don't have any friends to call and have always done everything for and by myself. I don't know how to identify if I need help or even how to ask for help.
So whats new, I guess this will be just another think I do on my own.
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I would like to say thank you to everyone for all your words, I have received more support from strangers than my own mother.
I told her about being diagnosed and her reaction was to say that it is my fault and then she said that she didn't want me to go to hell so I had better sort things out with god... gee thanks for the support mum. (sorry, venting, but needed to get it out)
I am trying to be stong for my partner, if I am a mess then he is one too. We have always gone with the flow, this will be no different, we will play the waiting game until we see the surgeon again next week for the pathology results.
I feel like my thoughts are all over the place and it is showing in what I am writing, sorry if it is difficult to follow or read.
Thanks again for the warm welcome, feel free to add me to any groups you think will be useful/benificial.
Tricia xxx
- Hazel_MMember
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, it really is a rollercoaster ride. There is no right or wrong about how you are feeling, just go with it. Any questions you have just post a blog and there is always someone on here to help, you don't have to be alone, wishing you all the best with whatever treatment you need, take care,
Hazel xx
- TonyaMMemberSorry about your bc diagnosis but welcome to this network.You won't feel so alone here and you'll receive lots of info and support.It's hard to prepare for what's ahead until you get your pathology.I gather you are having more nodes removed?and you've had a lumpectomy?if that's the case then you will most likely have radiation.Write everything down when you see your doctors and ask for a copy of your pathology.Have you ordered your free "My journey kit"from this network?It will get you up to speed.The Perth bc support group is wonderful and I personally know Chris and Mich.They are lovely women.Sometimes you feel numb and other times,anxious n scared- it's hard to predict.Just go with it.Blog back here for support or just to vent- it all helps. Tonya xx
- Merlins_mumMemberYou can blog or message people. I am happy to respond anytime. As I am currently living in Oman, you can be up late at night and still get hold of me! Love julie
Hi Julie
Thank you for the reply, I wasn't sure that anyone would.
Like you I am not much of a joiner as I have always had to fend for and look after myself.
I am on a learning curve with all this. I can totally understand the numb feeling, I think that is where I am at the moment.
I would like to know what is ahead of me so that I can prepare however as it is early days I suppose I will have to wait and see.
I would like very much to stay in touch.
Tricia
Hi Chris, Yes I am in Perth (Armadale area).
I am usually the one doing the supporting so please bear with me as I learn how to ask for help. I have never been involved with any groups and am not sure of the what, when, where, how and who of it all. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
I am going through alot of other stuff while also looking after my partner (he was badly injured at work) so this is really bad timing and just another thing that I have to deal with.
Thank you for your reply.
Tricia xxx
- Robyn_WMemberThis network is like a second family! 24/7 there is always someone here for you.Lean on the people here when you need support or advice,and don't ever think that you have to do this alone!!!!Take care and please stay in touch.CheersxoxRobyn
- ChrisMemberHi, when you say west side do you mean Perth? If so we have a wonderful support group over here, and we would love to support you if you feel we can help you. We are a friendly supportive group, here to help one another. Love Chris xx
- saphireMember
As Julie says everybody gives you help and support on here I was only diagnosed in May 28th and it is a whirlwind
Good luck and look forward to hearing from you as you go through the journe
- saphireMember
As Julie says everybody gives you help and support on here I was only diagnosed in May 28th and it is a whirlwind
Good luck and look forward to hearing from you as you go through the journe