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Iamthefreespiri's avatar
11 years ago

I am new to this

I am new to all this, having been diagnosed on 11 August 2014 and having my first surgery on 21 August 2014. I have already been told that I will be having another surgery as the nodes that were removed are 'sticky'.

I don't know how this is going to progress and what to expect. I have been told it is an emotional roller coaster however I am not feeling anything.

I have the support of my partner only, my family is east side while I am west side. I don't have any friends to call and have always done everything  for and by myself. I don't know how to identify if I need help or even how to ask for help.

So whats new, I guess this will be just another think I do on my own.

25 Replies

  • Sorry about your bc diagnosis but welcome to this network.You won't feel so alone here and you'll receive lots of info and support.It's hard to prepare for what's ahead until you get your pathology.I gather you are having more nodes removed?and you've had a lumpectomy?if that's the case then you will most likely have radiation.Write everything down when you see your doctors and ask for a copy of your pathology.Have you ordered your free "My journey kit"from this network?It will get you up to speed.The Perth bc support group is wonderful and I personally know Chris and Mich.They are lovely women.Sometimes you feel numb and other times,anxious n scared- it's hard to predict.Just go with it.Blog back here for support or just to vent- it all helps. Tonya xx
  • You can blog or message people. I am happy to respond anytime. As I am currently living in Oman, you can be up late at night and still get hold of me! Love julie
  • Hi Julie

    Thank you for the reply, I wasn't sure that anyone would.

    Like you I am not much of a joiner as I have always had to fend for and look after myself.

    I am on a learning curve with all this. I can totally understand the numb feeling, I think that is where I am at the moment.

    I would like to know what is ahead of me so that I can prepare however as it is early days I suppose I will have to wait and see.

    I would like very much to stay in touch.

    Tricia

  • Hi Chris, Yes I am in Perth (Armadale area).

    I am usually the one doing the supporting so please bear with me as I learn how to ask for help. I have never been involved with any groups and am not sure of the what, when, where, how and who of it all. Any information would be greatly appreciated.

    I am going through alot of other stuff while also looking after my partner (he was badly injured at work) so this is really bad timing and just another thing that I have to deal with.

    Thank you for your reply.

    Tricia xxx

  • This network is like a second family! 24/7 there is always someone here for you.Lean on the people here when you need support or advice,and don't ever think that you have to do this alone!!!!Take care and please stay in touch.CheersxoxRobyn
  • Hi, when you say west side do you mean Perth? If so we have a wonderful support group over here, and we would love to support you if you feel we can help you. We are a friendly supportive group, here to help one another. Love Chris xx
  • As Julie says everybody gives you help and support on here I was only diagnosed in May 28th and it is a whirlwind

    Good luck and look forward to hearing from you as you go through the journe

  • As Julie says everybody gives you help and support on here I was only diagnosed in May 28th and it is a whirlwind

    Good luck and look forward to hearing from you as you go through the journe

  • If you are on this network, you will never be alone. You can get as little or as much support as you like. There may be a local group you can meet up with...I was reluctant to at first, I am not much of a joiner but as I had no family either they became my goto people when I wanted to know something or just to get reassurance. I also felt pretty numb until the cocktails of drugs from surgery and chemo hit my system. That was my emotional time. With love Julie
  • If you are on this network, you will never be alone. You can get as little or as much support as you like. There may be a local group you can meet up with...I was reluctant to at first, I am not much of a joiner but as I had no family either they became my goto people when I wanted to know something or just to get reassurance. I also felt pretty numb until the cocktails of drugs from surgery and chemo hit my system. That was my emotional time. With love Julie