Hello Julie,
Friends & family can be really surprising at a time like this, I have a mix of over helpful to social media messages instead of picking up the phone. Perhaps you could give them the leaflet in My Journey on how to support a friend / colleague. You dont want to offend, but you also want positive friends around you. Or perhaps you meet it head on and say how you feel, gently of course. If we can't be ourselves now, when can we :)
My ops on the 13th May, I have minor pre op tomorrow. Wishing you the best of luck on Thursday and hope to meet soon.
Best wishes,
Sadna x