Hello to all the strong women out there!

@iSara  -  in the meantime the caring staff at BCNA will help talk you through and give some direction until you are happy to find someone.
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@Csiga Thanks lovely, yes working on finding someone i'm comfortable with. Im not great with opening up to people.

@Sister that sounds gorgeous! it kinds of put everything into perspective doesn't it. Listening to my two laugh is the best sound ever! I always say that too.  <3 
Listening to everyone here, has already helped me heaps! keeps me from guessing and being all in my head...which is my usual. lol

So much thanks to everyone  :* <3  

Good to hear that you have sisters you can turn to @isara.  I know that others will have heard this before (yawn) but one of my favourite memories since diagnosis, is watching my 3 kids laughing and carrying on while they prepared a roast dinner and decorated the pav on Christmas Day.  They had never done anything like that but I was just out of surgery and couldn't manage too much apart from issuing instructions.  A photo of them peeling the spuds is on my phone in my "happy place" album.  

Coming on this forum has been a major part in getting me through this and I'm sure that you will find it helpful.  We're here when you need information and support, to vent or have the odd laugh.  And if you just need to connect with someone who understands, there's usually someone around even at 3am - check out "Night Howls".

Dear iSara,
you will be fine! We will be fine! Everything is only temporary. I keep saying this to myself. It is working very well. You are going to experience some amazing things during your journey. Not everything is bad. 
My suggestion would be to try to find a good psychiatrist who is specialised in treating people with cancer.
I have an amazing one.  

@Afraser Oh you have made a important point. My mum has been through so much later (she's at breaking point) and I have watered it down a little. But just drip feeding her info. I am keeping from her more my emotional state. I have my sisters for that.  :|

@"Kiwi Angel" Oh I hear you, I already feel better talking to you ladies! It helps so much! 
Its a journey so many of us have to go through...just scary to think how many people it effects. 
We are strong tho.... its lessons for everyone and especially those around us. To appreciate what we/they have.

xxx

@iSara - welcome to the forum - such a great resource and support when you are first diagnosed - don't know what I would of done without the women on here. xox

Just as an aside, I know some women dread telling parents, sometimes because they may try to take over and 'manage' but sometimes because they are elderly. My mother was 89 when I was diagnosed and in care - physically frail but mentally very alert. I talked it through with nursing home staff first, who strongly advised that I tell her and 'let her be part of your experience'. And so it was. I think I extended her life as she wanted to make sure I was OK. It's horses for courses of course, but telling it as it is may be a good option for both young and old. 

@Sister thanks lovely. We don't give them enough credit sometimes....they are clever and now with google, they learn more than we ever did. I will absolutely fully explain after my plan is sorted with oncologist. Will need them to help around the house a bit more i'm sure. I am a single mum, so I pretty much do everything.  :D
Even tho they are older teens, they are still boys  :# lol

xxx

Btw mine were 11, 12 and 15 at diagnosis.

@isara We told the kids from the first - they sense something's wrong and it's definitely helped both them and me to keep it open.  I have told them that I will keep them informed of anything I know (just not the whatifs).  They have actually been a great support and they understand if I'm not feeling great.