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feeling super sad and crying all the time
Hi Everyone, I was diagnosed in April with her 2 breast cancer and had a lumpectomy 10 weeks ago. At the time I coped quite well I am 53 and although surprised at the time and shocked I seem to handl...
byrnes said:
For every pain or every time I feel nauseous I get incredibly scared and constantly cannot feel happy anymore. ... I think I am going to die and seem not to be able to move on ... sinking into a hole I may not be able to get out of ... I have never cried all the time in my life
Because of the health issue you're on high alert now, it's natural that every little twinge will have a bigger response than it would have before, suddenly seeming like they could signal something seriously wrong instead of going virtually unnoticed.For every pain or every time I feel nauseous I get incredibly scared and constantly cannot feel happy anymore. ... I think I am going to die and seem not to be able to move on ... sinking into a hole I may not be able to get out of ... I have never cried all the time in my life
The thing about anxiety is that it often manifests in physical symptoms, causing pains that make you even more anxious. It's awful stuff, but it passes. But I'm worried about what really sounds like a depression setting in :(. You're worth looking after and I'm really happy you've taken @Debza and @rowdy 's advice and arranged consultation.
byrnes said:
... just want to feel happy again does that happen eventually please tell me it does.
It was only for a short while and it felt like an eternity. I've learned a lot about myself and become someone with even more inner strength. I had to go through all the darkness, acknowledge how frail I really was (and am) and accept that it is okay to be sick.
What is happening to you is not your fault, at all. I think we all deal with fear of recurrence, and I don't see mine ever going away, but it will definitely become less significant. I will get on with my life, go for my checks, and leave the worrying out because there's nothing I can do. I accept that I cannot control it.
byrnes said:
I know I should not have this feeling of anger ... Do you have cancer well No so stop complaining
I know I should not have this feeling of anger ... Do you have cancer well No so stop complaining
When I'm browsing Facebook and seeing seemingly endless complaints about things like a show being cancelled as if it's The End Of The World I can't help but think 'oh shut up, grow some perspective' either. I think it just means you're not trivializing your experience and that you're growing new perspectives. I don't believe that there are "should" or "shouldn't" where feelings are concerned - feelings don't listen to reason at the best of times, they just happen and I think you're perfectly entitled to feel any way you damned please. Cut yourself a break! I really hope things start to get easier for you very soon. <3
Bluewren said:
some days I think I am okay then it hits me again. If we realize we need help with our feelings I think that is the first step. It's so unfair so many ladies are going through all this treatment and surgery.
some days I think I am okay then it hits me again. If we realize we need help with our feelings I think that is the first step. It's so unfair so many ladies are going through all this treatment and surgery.
Me too. I've taken two breaks from these forums and one was because my heart would break every time I read something here even though I was coming to get support. I just had to start banning myself when fragile and minimize my time, because it really can get a bit much. I hope you're okay.