I meant to say, you are amazing for having come through the surgery with your two kids. What I have heard is in keeping with Robyn and Sue, the side effects of chemo are so better managed now and there's much less time spent being less active in general.
You said there was conflict in your household? Who is pro chemo and who is anti-chemo?
Just to be clear I'm mostly pro-chemo but can understand why anyone would think it might not be worth it.
I also understand about household conflict. My partner and I had only moved in 5 days before diagnosis. Then poor Josh, who's a single child, got swamped with my five siblings and mother. I've spent a lot of energy on trying to keep everyone happy. There's been no open fights, but a lot of behind the scenes tension.