Thank you ladies, that does help a lot! Yes I think if I've been told I need to cope on my own in our extended family setting I will stress that. I don't want my dear old dad doing dressings even though he would offer. Niece is having a bub in August and here one week out of two as she lives far south and has no DL (her husband is FIFO). And sis is drawing boundaries around herself regarding my surgeon's plan for chemo and rad. If I do it, she can't cope healthwise or because she's against it. Feels like sort of a punishment for doing it. I know she does get bedridden from fibro now and then but she is also planning on living with niece for a couple of weeks when baby arrives. So maybe best to put family drama behind me and think of myself? This group is a saviour! xxx
