Hi @jan61
I would describe myself as 'an insanely private person' as well! I have refused to tell many people, including family members that I even have BC. It is none of their business.
My surgeon gave me copies of all of my results without me asking for them and never did I have a conversation where anyone other than my surgeon or oncologist discussed results with me.
Personally, I did not feel the need to have a BC nurse, although they popped in to see me regularly while I was in hospital and they were all really lovely and I enjoyed chatting with them. One of them even came back and distracted me while my drains were removed because I was worried about the pain level (of course it ended up almost pain free and I felt like a dill) Why are the nurses getting your results and then discussing them with you? I would think that your surgeon and maybe oncologist should be the only ones to do this.
Best wishes